It seems that recently I’ve had multiple opportunities to study and discuss the role of men. Somewhat adjacent to that is the definition of manhood. How does a man know he’s a man?
Girls maturing into women experience some very obvious and some not so obvious physical changes that confirm their womanhood. Men have no such natural confirmation. In many cases they don’t even have the confirmation of others.
The world of men is one of competition and continual challenge. Winning becomes a symbol of manhood. This is empty affirmation because there is always someone new to challenge your past winnings. How can a man become comfortable with his own skin, when he no longer has to prove anything to demonstrate his masculinity?
The most recent opportunity is one that is seeking an agenda of topics that are critical for men to hear. While this is anticipated to be delivered under the umbrella of a church organization, I would love nothing better than to create an agenda that would appeal to those outside the church as well. If we’re serious about providing a service to the community we should be able to help men who are confused about their roles clarify that position.
The jails are full of men who acted out of confusion over their roles. Confusion causes men to treat women poorly because they see them as things to be used rather than real people who are to be protected and loved. Confusion causes men to leave women in charge of single parent homes as they abandon roles and responsibilities they don’t understand. Confusion has men abusing their families rather than modeling leadership and taking responsibility for developing encouraging relationships with their children. This is followed by generations of confused men acting out frustration, while their families pray for someone to come along and break the cycle. The list goes on and on and on.
I would welcome input from readers of this blog regarding topics that must be addressed with men. Among the topics included would be the following:
– defining manhood
– temptations of men
– integrity in the workplace
– leadership lessons for men
– building a model for fathering
– helping your son become a man
– for the single man – selecting an appropriate mate
– the responsible single male
This is not an all-inclusive list. Again, any and all input is welcome.