This passage too often is quoted only for the wives submitting to their husbands. In a healthy home life, the husband has created an environment where the wife willingly submits to the wisdom and loving care of her husband. To the generations that follow I would suggest that this passage depicts a healthy home model; one where the husband is a godly man who loves his wife as Christ loved the church. This does not mean he is a religious man. Rather, it means that he is a man after God’s own heart. He is a man who is wise and understands himself and his role from God’s perspective. He a man who does not provoke his children to anger, but rather treats them with love and respect.
Wives should submit to their husbands because Christ has charged them to lead the home. The scriptures are full of references about cranky and nagging wives. These passages on husbands and wives bring out the importance of selecting a mate who will help you and encourage you in the faith. A Christ centered home is not without problems but the ability to use your faith and the scriptures as a common sounding board for truth and balance in your marriage will quiet many a disagreement. The ability to pray together about various issues and trials you will face will create a bond in your marriage that the world can never know. Listen carefully to how your spouse prays.
Joshua once said, “… choose you this day whom you will serve …. as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” (Joshua 24:15) Joshua accepted the responsibility for the direction his family had taken and would take in the future. As men the responsibility is clearly ours. We carry that responsibility from the day we’re born until the day we die. Keep yourself in perspective as you grow in wisdom and knowledge and as you prepare for marriage and selecting the wife with whom you will spend the rest of your life. Keep yourself in perspective as you lead your family. Do not be a hindrance to your family’s relationship with God. Rather, build them up, be a model of God’s man in your home that will draw your family closer to God because of the way you conduct yourself.